The Differences Between Men And Women

The difference between men and women.
Some so simple, some so complex.
Some so visible we take them for granted.
And others are so visible that we are completely blind to them.
As we often are, with things right in front of our faces.

Most women view men as no-good liars, and the self-serving murderers of chivalry.
And while this ideal, is not completely unfounded, it is not completely true.

Most women would also like you to believe that they have no need for men.
And have given up on love completely.
But deep down this is the truth...

To women, men represent security.
The desire to be taken care of. The need to feel protected.
The warmth of being held. And the appreciation of being provided for.
A man can do things for women that they've always desired but seldom expressed.

A woman wants to be kissed at random times.
She wants to be hugged from behind for no reason.
A kiss only the lips shows desire.
A kiss on the forehead shows true love.

A woman expects her words to not only be listened to, but to be remembered.

Dates are more than numbers or months.
They are windows to memories she never wants to lose.
The smallest details often bear the heaviest impact on a woman's state of mind.

For example, something as simple as woman blushing has deep rooted meaning. To me, when a woman blushes, it is her body's natural reaction, to something she had always wanted you to say, but never expected that you would.

But at the same time, women are ever evolving beings. Thus their expectations change.

A woman wants a man with a sense of humor, but can also take things seriously. She wants a man who is spontaneous, but can adhere to a plan. She wants a man who loves his mother, but is NOT a mama's boy. She wants a man who shows affection, but is not overbearing. She wants to feel desired, but not lusted after. She wants a man who is nice, but not complacent. She wants a man who can take control, but is not dominating. She wants a man who is protective, but not jealous. She wants a man who will hold her hand in public, and then lay his head in her lap at night.

Understand? Well you better. She expects you to know this.

And we men, we definately have our faults. Most of us see women as conquests. See them for their bodies first. See them as the guardians of our physical desires or as some guys put it, "needs." And yet most men can be hypocritical. They engage in this behavior, and then turn around and detest other men who view their sisters, girlfriends, or wives, in this same manner.

We men like everyone to believe that women do not matter to us.
That everything we do is not for their enjoyment. But that is a lie.

Men try to get in shape, because they feel women will look at them more. Men try to have nice things, because they feel women are materialistic and would want to get closer to them, to have access to said things. Men try to flash lots of money, because they want women to get the impression they can provide security for them. Men like to have nice places to live, because they feel women will want to be alone with them in that place. Basically, almost everything men do is the hopes to attract or keep a woman. Bottom line.

But deep down, to some guys, the ones who matter, women represent inspiration.

A man can be the most creative when is in love, or is heartbroken. Feelings both inspired by women. If a man finds out his woman is pregnant, he should be inspired to change his ways to better prepare for the child she will bear. In the days of great men, such as Dr. King, he was able to fight the good fight, because he had a strong woman behind him, inspiring him to change the world for the better.
Right now as you read this, there is a good man, holding a gun in some foreign desert. Willing to die to protect his country. But he is inspired to stay alive, so he can come home and see his woman just one more time.

Women were once seen as sacred at points in time. Women were seen by men as the physical gateway to Heaven. That to be intimate with a woman was the closest he can get to God.
And I truly believe that we need to get back to those feelings.

So as I draw this blog to a close, know that this was not written to show that I have some deep rooted knowledge of everything. But this merely my thoughts, given to you, after years of witnessing relationships, both good and bad, from the outside. And while I, myself, have never been in a serious relationship. I think that if you find someone, that you can really and truly devote yourself to, no matter how long or short the time. Then for that moment you were truly alive. So you should cherish the good, and not forget the bad, but instead learn from it. We are the mistakes we make, if we continue to repeat them.

With that being said, remember that you all are loved.
Clyde Hurlston.